“I am still in college.” Maria smiled and showed a little bit of her pride. “I am the only one in the family getting into the college.” I asked her: “What is your major?” “I am still in community college. I am studying Psychology and I want to transfer to university.”

I laughed: “Your major is Psychology, then why do you come to see me?” Maria smiled: “I want to get the experience.” Maria is in her early 20’s, skinny. She started to tell me that her parents came from Mexico with nothing. Her smart brother just became a teen father. She has a little bit problem to befriend with her sister-in-law because Maria thinks they are too young to have a baby.

Talking about her parents, she said: “They always argued. My mother stayed home to take care of me and my brother. But soon as my father came home, they started to fight for money.” I asked her: “Are they still in marriage?” “NO! My father went back to Mexico when I was in high school. My mother got a job at a retail store.” She soon looked sad: “My mom just got a baby a year ago with her boyfriend. She is doing part time job, she wants me to help her taking care of my little brother.”

I asked her: “Are you living with your mom now?” She replied: ” Yes, but I don’t want to. I got part time job, I got school! I don’t really want to be her babysitter. But she needs me now, and I want to have my career.”

I asked her: “Have you ever talked to your father at Mexico?” Maria’s face beamed with joy: “Yes. I love him. He always tells me when I need money, call him. He told me that he will cover my college tuition.” I immediately pointed this out to her: “It sounds like your mom wants to keep you around her, but you don’t want to follow her steps. You have strong inner struggle — stay with mom or get out to pursue my own career. Am I right?”

Maria resonated: “Ya! I feel guilty if I leave my mom. But I don’t want to be her babysitter. I want to run a business. I want to have my own business. I don’t want to become her. I am the only one in the family getting college degree.”

“Go for it! Your own future is more important than your mom’s needs. Let see what happened in your past life. See what is holding you from moving forward.” So I guided her into her past lives.

In one of her past lives, she was a very successful business man who was running a sewing factory to produce fashion clothing. That is a good indication why she wants to be a business woman.

Sure enough, I encouraged her to take business related courses, get out of her mom’s influences and seek her father’s financial assistance when she move forward.

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