‘My mother attempted suicide 5 or 6 times.‘ Nina, an over-weighed young lady, stated it in a very calm tone. ‘When did it happen?‘ I asked. ‘When I was a little girl, and when I was a teenager. She took a lot of sleep pills.’ 

Nina suddenly showed anger, ‘Each time after she had fight with my father, I had to check her up, making sure she was breathing on the bed. I am so freaky tired of my parent’s fights.’  I asked her: ‘How was your father doing?’ 

‘He stormed out the door. Sometimes he did not come home till next morning. I asked him where did you go,  he simply said I kept driving, I slept in the car. I knew when he was angry, he would drive like racing car. I was so scared. One time, I vomited. I was so worried, I did not want to lose my parent.’ Nina started to cry out loud. 

I did age regression for Nina, took her back to the time when her mother tried to commit suicide. ‘I was 3 years old, mom took my sister and me walking toward the ocean. I was scared. I did not want to die. Me and my sister were crying. Someone stopped her.’

I guided her to move on: ‘I was 8 years old, one day, I came home after school, mom was lying on the bed, looked like she was dead. I was in panic, I called my father. He told me to call 911.  The ambulance took her to hospital. We all went there to see her. She took too much sleep pills. When she woke up, she could not recognize me. Ever since, it became my habit to check her when she was sleeping. I was really afraid of losing my mom. ‘ Tears dropping on Nina’s face, she looked very sad.

I helped her to move forward: ‘I will never forget this one. Again, after their big fight, mom went up to roof top, trying to jump off. I was 14. I knelt down, crying and begging mom – Don’t do it. Neighbors were gathering around and police also arrived. I felt the whole world was against me. I almost passed out. I could not bear it anymore.’

‘I could not focus on my study, I wanted to leave home, but I did not have money. I wanted to be adopted by my classmate’s parents, anyone would be better than my folks.’ She cried out. ‘We had to move a small house because my dad’s business turned bad. I graduated from high school and started to work to help the family. My sister left home.‘

I guided Nina to a recent fight between her parents. ‘Few month ago, when I got home from work, I heard the familiar fight. This time, I screamed to them. Please get divorced. I was hysteria, I screamed loud, I scream hysterically, screaming out my fears  and my angers over the years.’ Nina was shaking.

I said in calm tone: “Good! Now you vent it out. Now you know the roots of your fears, resentments and insecurity. You can close that door now. Leave all behind the door.” Nina said: “I feel the only thing can make me feel comfortable is eating good foods. I could drive for an hour just to eat something I like.’ 

“Excellent, now you find the cause of your weight. You use good foods to suppress the  insecurity, fear and anxiety. Now, there is nothing there for you to suppress, you don’t need to chase foods as well.”

“You got healed! Go home to tell your mom & dad that you love them, but you will not be affected by their emotions any more. You may or may not move out, but you definitely will seek a life with totally new perspective.” Nina smiled. 

About half year later, I came across with Nina at a store. She looked much prettier and full of self-confidence. Yes! She is losing weight too!